Rotimi returns to WHOREible Decisions nearly eight years after his first appearance, catching up with hosts Mandii B and Weezy to reflect on his growth, both personally and professionally. From transitioning from his ‘Power’ role as Dre to becoming a successful musician and gaining a new perspective on dating, Rotimi’s evolution is evident.
The episode kicks off with a stroll down memory lane, with the hosts discussing how much has changed over the years, especially Rotimi’s newfound family life. Now married with children, Rotimi opens up about meeting his wife, Vanessa, at Essence Fest in 2019, their whirlwind romance, and their decision to keep their relationship private until they were outed by The Shade Room. The couple’s organic journey led to an engagement after two years of dating, despite their initial intentions to keep things low-key.
Rotimi dives deep into the complexities of maintaining a relationship while being in the spotlight. He talks about how marriage has made him more attractive to women and the challenges of balancing his Hollywood career with family life. He also shares how he navigates the entertainment industry’s temptations, stressing the importance of representing diverse beauty in his music videos and being intentional with the relationships he builds.
The discussion takes an insightful turn as the group tackles the idea that marriage is transactional. Rotimi firmly rejects this notion, emphasizing that for him, marriage is a spiritual commitment that goes beyond legalities. He stresses that selflessness is at the core of a strong marriage and that their relationship grew naturally without the pressure of conventional expectations.
A highlight of the episode is the candid discussion on communication in relationships. The group explores how men often lie about small things, while women desire honesty. Rotimi and the hosts agree that telling the truth, even when difficult, is ultimately more attractive. The conversation touches on how traditional cultural expectations in relationships—particularly in Nigerian and Tanzanian communities—can shape communication dynamics, and how evolving these traditions can lead to healthier connections.
The conversation also delves into how couples can maintain intimacy after childbirth. Rotimi shares his thoughts on supporting his wife throughout the post-pregnancy journey, offering tips on patience, maintaining physical affection, and making sure the woman feels sexy and loved during this transformative time. The episode includes Rotimi discussing his upcoming double album, advocating for modern R&B’s resurgence, calling for more respect for the genre & much more.
