In this episode of Mr Jay Hill Network, Monique Samuels reflects on personal growth and transformation, explaining how they started searching for themselves and changing after years of self-sacrifice and imbalance in their marriage. She discusses how, at the time, they were focused on pleasing others, but eventually realized they needed to set boundaries and prioritize their own well-being. This shift caused tension in her relationship, as her partner, NFL player Chris Samuels, who had been providing financially and protecting their image, couldn’t meet the emotional needs she required, such as vulnerability, protection, and safety.
Despite her partner’s attempts to change, Monique acknowledges that both individuals need to grow for a relationship to work. She ultimately realized that she couldn’t keep expecting her partner to change to meet her needs and faced the painful decision to leave. The hardest part was restructuring life for their children, as they didn’t want them to normalize unhealthy relationships, recognizing that children often mirror the dynamics they witness.
